I am considering fostering children...I said it out loud. I mentioned it to Joe and we decided to talk about it. It's not a decision that will be made lightly. There are so many things to consider. We are stable adults who have a lot to offer a child. We haven't given up hope on having our own baby one day but right now it's just not working for us. We have expended our resources on fertility treatments and as much as it's so worth it if the outcome is a child we just don't see any results. It's so hard for me to remember it's in God's time not my own. We have thrown around the idea of adoption. There are so many children out there that need parents. The only that really scares me is the cost. Joe's company offers adoption assistance but it would still be a bit on money out of pocket. If we do go this route it would be at least a few years or more down the road.
We haven't given up hope of trying for our own child either. Going further right now just isn't an option for us. We have decided to wait until January at the soonest to re-visit any treatment options. Our biggest hurdle right now is simply to get me to ovulate. If we could do that consistently we would have a good shot. Everything else checks out fine. I figure between now and then I will do the only thing I can do...lose more weight. Women with PCOS often have great success in getting pregnant after weight loss. Sometimes losing just a few pounds can make all the difference. I will be 24 this year. We have been ttc for 4 years, and saw our first doctor 3 years ago. It's stressful and painful that's it's been so long.
I honestly had no intentions on writing any of that. I decided to sit down tonight and write what ever came to mind. Obviously it's something I have been thinking about lately. With the treatments and everything it's always "whats the next step?"
I have my "plan" but is it really working...I think for now we should just live for now. Instead of worrying and waiting for the next step...
3 comments:
You know that I think fostering children is an awesome idea. Coming from someone who's been in foster homes (they were family, but foster homes none the less) it's so amazing having someone taking you in and love you and care for you when most of those children have no one. It's so sad!
I know you'll be parents one day. I can't begin to imagine the toll the past four years has had on you but I know it hurts me to see you hurting. It is all in Gods time but I know that doesn't make it any easier. You and Joe are too amazing to not be parents. It will happen one day.
Hang in there and keep weighing your options. You have plenty of time to decide. Whatever you do, it will work out!
Thanks Jessi. I've always wanted to foster but I'm very afraid of getting very attached I'm not sure if I could handle letting them go.
((hugs)) i hate that you & Joe have worked at this for so long. you both are often in my thoughts and prayers because i know what great parents you will be and what a loving family you will have!!
one of the ladies i work with at WIC fosters babies. actually, it is her mother who does it, and she only got into it to help her through a deep depression after her husband passed. they love it and they most often get newborns who come from drug addicted mothers. if you would like to talk with her to see what it all entails, let me know and i can get her number for you. she told me a few weeks ago that the need is great for good foster parents.
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